Being connected to your children right now is more important than ever
Your children are ‘exposed’ now more than ever. They are being exposed to more information in the media, from peers and through social media. We as parents need to be more vigilant and ‘up’ our parenting game, and be more conscious and alert as our kids are growing up faster than we thought.
Nowadays, Facebook and other social media platforms are the key communication tools in your children’s lives; they spend most of their spare time in front of their computers, so we tend to see less and less of “real communication” in the household.
On top of that, parents are busy with their work and chores around the house and the children are busy connecting with friends through social media. Perhaps we hardly see them in the home, nor in the garden playing with their siblings or friends, nor connecting with friends in the neighbourhood.
Within this environment it is more important that we put in extra ‘work’ to create the necessary connections with our children.
It is not about going to restaurants or on vacation to connect. In fact, connecting with your children is about everyday interactions.
How to create connections with your children?
Everything you do or share together forms the bonding and connections; for example, a smile, greetings in the morning, good night kisses and hugs, having breakfast together, sharing a wonderful TV program together, just sitting down chatting, having a game of chess, walking or strolling along the beach, sharing bed time stories, or chatting in the car while travelling to and from school. All the little things that you do or share every day … all these create connections.
It is the EVERYDAY interactions that give you the opportunity to create connections and bond with your children.
Imagine, when you ask your child after school “How’s your day been?” And the response is “Hmm, it’s okay!” Then the child shrugs their shoulders and heads off back to the computer or television.
What is this telling you? You can take steps to connect!
If you have a vision of a connected family—a family that is happy to spend time with each other and respects each other, as well as a family that loves and accepts you no matter who you are—then focus on interacting.
That family you desired is out there; you just have to reach out for it.
Now you have made up your mind to re-connect with your children; today is a great time to start. No matter when you start, it is never too late.
And the best place to start is in the HEART of your home – Your KITCHEN!