Parenting is one of the most difficult, daunting roles, but yet the most rewarding “job” in the world. We face daily challenges of balancing our commitments, such as career, and other demands in our lives, like household responsibilities and other family commitments, with the needs of our children as well as our own needs.
Parents know that having strong bonded relationships with their children is the key to having great connections with them.
Those shared moments can look like laughing hysterically together without any good reason, bath times, driving them around for their after school activities, or making amends from challenging incidents. It can also be sharing quiet moments together, shopping, sharing good meals at the dining table, cooking cultural dishes and sharing about your life aspirations and culture, sharing your childhood stories and your challenging childhood moments etc. These experiences gradually build intimacy and trust with your children, hence connections.
It is those levels of deep relationship with your children, and trust within yourself, which enable you to access your natural parenting know-how to be attuned to your children’s’ needs. It is those emotional attunements or non-verbal communication between you and your children, and it is these elements that are going to see you and your child maneuver through tough patches and challenges in life.
The more attuned or attached the bonding to your child, the more secure, safe, understood and valued your child will feel. Through the mutual trust and respect, only then will your children be open to be guided by you, and willing to listen and to do their best in order to please you.
However, in order to be able to impact, influence and parent your children the best you can, you need to establish a deep and strong parent-child relationship. So you need to consciously make connections with your children a priority every single day.
It does not mean you have to spend every minute with your children, but to take the responsibility to care and love your children very seriously. In other words, you are committed to place your children’s well being at the top of your priority list.
What does it mean?
It means putting your love and commitment in action every single day, so that they can feel it.
Your children will thrive when they know that they are loved unconditionally, that they are special in your eyes, that they are loved, wanted, appreciated and they feel belonged; they will then have the confidence to take risks, try new things and thrive in life.
Connections and bonding, and meeting your child’s physical needs are crucial for connections. However, being emotionally attuned with your child ensures your child feels understood, valued, respected, calm, safe and secure, and so ensures your child will thrive and flourish in life.
Have a connected day with your children.